Stay Close, Don't Go

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                                                     You Don't

♫ Only Know You Love Her When You ^ Let Her Go ♫

Note: If you been through a recent break-up it's recommended you do not read this article.

Many people believe that if you truly love someone you will do anything to make them happy, even if it
means letting them go. These people are what I like to call wrong. If you truly love your partner you will do anything to make them happy, but if you love them more than you love yourself you won't let them go. You will do everything in your power to get them to stay and make them happy again.

My girlfriend and I got into a fight, I over reacted and snapped like always. I hurt her real bad. She almost left. It's almost been a week since. We haven't really talked. She's mad and confused and unhappy. I fought though to get her to stay I begged and pleaded. I got her to. My point? My point is that If you really love the person you will give up everything to get them to stay. It's more then that though. It's a lot more.

Everyday she struggles (I know this boring, just stay with me it the good advice comes soon.) and I have to look into those eyes that once shined with joy but are filled with so much hurt and pain you have to squint to see the joy.

Got 'Em Back Now What?

Fix it, don't throw it away. No matter how hard it is.

Now you work your damn ass off. You put your happiness aside. You make this
person feel like they are the last living organism on this planet. You make up for what you did. The hardest and most scariest part is giving them space. Because they might leave, but it's time you stop being selfish. In relationships there are times when everything falls apart and you're on the verge of losing each other.

My Advice?

You have to move on. Give each other space whether it's limited contact or not talking for a few days or a few weeks. But keep in mind that if neither of you attempt to move on to put these negative feelings aside you will never be happy together. I recommend two weeks of not talking at the very most, after that let things be normal. If you start thinking of what happened push it out of your mind and replace it with happy memories. Just remember that in every long lasting relationship their is always one time when one or both of you mess up so bad you guys are virtually done for. But you need to get up on your feet and realize that one or both of you messed up you need to stand up and realize that their sorry. Take their hand and be brave. Go against your better judgement give them a second chance by letting it go. This doesn't mean you have to just stop hurting and or be mad or even forget about it. You just need to realize it's in the past. Think of it like this. If you are reading a book and a major conflict happens to two of the major characters but the author just keeps writing that same chapter over and over and over rewording things maybe adding something new here and there. The story never got to move on because the author didn't let the characters move on by the end of the book it's too late. Maybe it's because they were afraid. Just keep in mind that if your partner is insane for you to the point where they would take a bullet for you without thinking about it they are hurting just as much if not more than you are because they hurt the one they love and care about the most. So My Advice? Give each other an entire week without talking or a few days (aside from maybe a text here and there/being there for them) than make up. MAKE things normal again. If you don't you're only causing more pain for each other and putting the relationship at risk. You have two choices at the end the two weeks (at most I suggest) let your relationship die with all the memories knowing you could have fixed it, but you decided to throw it away because it was 'broken' or 'damaged' or put all your effort and strength and faith into making it normal again. It may take time for it to be fully normal but if you just leave it and say "let time do it" it won't because YOU BOTH need to do it. And most importantly believe and never give up hope.

Personal Message To My Love

No words could ever make up for what I did for what I said. Nothing could express the guilt and pain I feel  And when I mean normal I don't mean we FaceTime as much or text as much or that the pain and anger is gone. What I mean is that when we do FaceTime things are as they were before. You being silly and bubbly. That's what I want the most. That is the only thing I want right now because that is what I love the most about you that is why this is killing me. That is all I want for Christmas...all I want in general. It's impossible for me to say this but I will say it and I regret it already, but I won't FaceTime you until Saturday night. Because then maybe just maybe I will get my Bubbles, I don't expect you to be Bubbly every time but just being able to know that at least  once a week you'll be bubbly will ease to pain so much. I love you...and I am sorry I question everything right now. I have faith in us and  I will do anything I can to heal the pain and get you bubbly again. I love you.
because of this. There are no words known to man that express how sorry I feel and how it tears me apart seeing you like this. I've said sorry at least a 100 times. I do not deserve forgiveness nor will I ask. My only wish right now is for things to be normal on Christmas Eve and Day. For happiness and the power of love to take it's course. Time is what is needed. I don't know what I can do or say that will make the pain stop. I'm sorry. You are the best thing that's happened to me. Whenever we FaceTime and I see you smile and do a silly face it's like my entire world lights up and all the pain disappears now there is only darkness. I'm slowly starting to see the light. It still tears me apart it tears me apart that things aren't the same that you are hurting and that I was the one who caused it. I try and try and try to give you your, but it's difficult when you have so much guilt you feel like taking your own life to make things better. I haven't cut once, I've stayed strong for you. I am doing everything I can do to make up for what I did. Whenever you don't text me I feel like you don't want to talk and maybe that's true. I just want you to know that I NEED things to be normal by Christmas Eve the thought of us being like this breaks my heart our first Christmas together. I'm always here for you. I am always your Hun. I love you Eden...please let's try to be normal...

I guess this is may way of trying to fix things trying to get things to be normal as they can be at the time. 

♫ "Have I ruined all you've given me?

I know I've been selfish, I know I've been foolish
But look through that and you will see

I'll do better, I know
Baby, I can do better

If you leave me tonight, I'll wake up alone
Don't tell me I can make it on my own
Don't leave me tonight
This heart of stone will sing till it dies

Sometimes I stare at you while you are sleeping
I listen to your breathing
Amazed how I somehow managed to
Sweep you off of your feet, girl, your perfect little feet, girl
I took for granted what you do

I'll do better, I know
Baby, I can do better" 

♫  — feeling sad.